So, I have a friend who is currently angry at me, although she hasn't actually said that and probably won't. She didn't say anything about it until I asked if everything was okay, and even then, she said she was fine and then later sent me a text message to tell me that everything was not fine. Apparently we're going to talk about it...sometime. It's already been four days since the offending incident (the nature of which is not entirely clear to me). The text message is a big improvement over the silent treatment I was getting before, but still.
Sometimes I am forced to confront the fact that other people do not deal with anger the way that I do.
This is how I get angry:
1. Incident occurs.
2. I say, "I'm angry," or yell, or have some other immediate expression of emotion.
3. Person in question reacts however they're going to react.
4. Depending on their reaction, I either forgive and forget, or file the incident into the "reduce expectations of this person" category of acquaintance. Either way, I move on.
Let there be no mistaking this: I get angry. Sometimes VERY angry. I just don't have the capacity to hold on to anger. It's not my nature to stew over things. Also, right now, I have other things to worry about. Like, you know, thousands of people without functional homes.
I'm trying to be understanding and give her time to put her thoughts in order, but seriously. I just do not have the energy or patience to deal with this indefinitely.